2.26.26 Relationship Paradigm

     

My Relationship Paradigm


Originated 2007, Re-Written and spoken at the pack commitment ceremony June 19, 2010, Updated 2013 & 2015, 2018 

March 20, 2019:  first day of my last year of my “first 50 years free”  test drive 

June  20, 2020 during stay @ home. Now February 26, 2026.

…. after the “major fall and the minor shift” in the world and the pack.

From a home of 10 at fullest, to “2 izza pack” from 2019 to a household of 3 for the wheelchair year 2022 and back to Nathan and I in July  2024 


"One of the cores of our relationship as the "TamarackPolyPack" is the stand I invented for myself and began living in 2007. It has evolved and will continue to deepen and broaden. This has become the foundation of our lives and the trunk from which the branches of my primary relationships are nourished.


This stand, this fundamental paradigm is the structure and solidity from which I commit my life to my partners and to the practice of love itself.


Regarding commitment; I have found freedom in committing without expectation of reciprocal commitment or of commitment to certain roles or behaviors. I commit wholly and entirely to people, the pups, and to ideals in life I aspire to.  When I look inside myself, I know and believe that I can commit, not based on anything external. This allows myself and my partners to grow and be whole at our own pace, honoring our own stages in life and our hearts.


This makes possible love not based on age, gender, roles, disparate sexual drives and orientation, work status or any other mainstream social ideology.


Here are my vows to the practice of love.

I will not promise forever or exclusivity in my relationship.

I will promise INTENT to make long-lasting, intentional and loving journeys together.

I will not promise not to love or have affection for or to be attracted to anyone, ever.

I will do my utmost to be supportive of this same trait in my lovers and partners

I will not promise not to heal, resume or develop existing love relationships 

or restrict the growth of those relationships.

I pledge to construct those newer or recreated relationships in support of current relationships that are flourishing.

I will do my utmost to respect the same in my partners

I reserve the right to change my mind about types of relationships, extent of physical and psychological connection, and how I express my love.

I also accept that people will have their own feelings about my changes and I will honor their process, and accept the results of my changes, 

as far as I am responsible for them.

I WILL make and honor commitments regarding how my love and affection are expressed. (I.e. sexual fidelity, emotional connection etc.)

I will be honest in my decisions and behaviors affecting those I am with.

If I become unable to honor existing guidelines, I will discuss with, inform and listen to my partner’s views on any changes I feel I need to make.

I WILL strive to keep my relationships healthy and strong 

and not seek other partners to fill gaps or wounds


I WILL choose new persons in my life from a position of health and wholeness and strength:  to add to an already solid and healthy life: not as  escape or retaliation for something in a current situation.

I will make choices involving other persons, with their input, hearing them, not "FOR" them or to "PROTECT" them from their own growth and experience.

I will do my best to see all my partners, lovers and friends as the new person they are at the beginning of every day. 

I will strive to allow them to recreate their reality to grow, to blossom, to BE

&  to not be locked into their past mistakes, choices and patterns. I offer the freedom to make new paths and see each as they are every new morning.


I will be kind, clear and compassionate as I make changes


I will recognize people's humanity and hearts while backing up, shifting, 

moving sideways and going forward


I ask for tolerance and a gentle reminder when I fall down in this above intent.

I ask for and offer Grace in Love.

Ann Marie Taylor February 26, 2026

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